If you don't have anything nice to say...

"If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all"

Human nature and behavior fascinates me. It's also frustrating as hell, but that's besides the point. I often ponder the hows and the whys of the ways we think and the things we do. Perhaps I should have taken several people's advice saying I should have been a psychologist or a psychiatrist but alas, I didn't.

I've never (for example – because this instance just reared it's ugly head in a friend of mine's life) understood the reasoning behind people bullying and saying such negative things about others. What does it get them? Does it do something for them? Does it make them feel better about themselves? And what's often funny is that the people who do these things and say these things are quite often (more than not) in a position where they know the devastating effects that bullying has. Either they have experienced first hand themselves or they have bared witness to the effects of someone they love dearly that bullying and slandering has had.

But almost always, the person who starts the slandering and bullying takes offense to when the tables are turned and it is done in kind. So why start it? It goes back to the question of: What do you get out of it? Is your existence that meaningless and pitiful that you can dish it out but you can't take it?

I've never bared witness to such behavior as these anywhere else, except for online. And it is a no holds barred type behavior. These people, these supposed "mature responsible adults", resorting to slanderous comments, name calling and lies. Duplicitous behaviors and backstabbing also run rampant. WHY?

It's infuriating. And it's more than a little embarrassing when you're associated with the perpetrator(s) (thankfully I'm not in this specific case although once upon a time I was).

It's funny (not in a ha ha funny) in a way, I know for a fact that this person who is saying these things has had her own child bullied, so you'd think that they themselves would be an advocate to stop such behaviors. Sadly, this is not the case. Only when it suits them, does it behoove them to do so.

I'm not saying we all have to get along. That would be damn near impossible. But if you don't like someone, shut the hell up and be about your own business and let other people live their own lives. Peacefully. Don't stir up unwanted or needed crap about people. Especially people you have nothing to do with. In the end, it only makes you look like a cold hearted, mean person. And what's the point in that?

"Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak out and remove all doubt"

One Last Glimpse,

~K